Sponsor a Dancer!!!

I’ve known Bridger Barksdale all his life. I am *awed* at his dedication to his pursuits and the *excellence* he achieves in them.

I produced this video to show off some of his inspiring skills, and to help his raise money to attend the Bolshoi Theater’s summer intensive program in New York this summer, where he was awarded a 90% scholarship when he tried out at the Grand Prix in Denver this winter. His family is not rich and could really use your help. I guarantee that any help you can provide would be a VERY GOOD cause!

(DONATION PAGE ADDRESS COMING UP SOON!!!)

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Boston Marathon Bombing Commentary: Respect

its April 15th 2013 and today’s been a tough day for Americans. Not only did many people at a fork over there taxes to the government, but three people were killed by bomber the Boston Marathon.
we react with shock two tragedies like this, not only because of the senseless loss of life and violence, but also because of the awareness that we are not entirely safe on our own streets.
if that was the worst thing that happened today, what a great nation America would be.
unfortunately, this is not the case. 27 other people died today as well, if we rely on statistics and averages , killed by drunk drivers. These drivers who drank and then got behind wheel surely didn’t intend to kill anyone, but their victims are still just as dead and their families and friends just as grief stricken.
even those deaths are not the day’s biggest tragedy. 160,000 student stayed home from school to avoid bullyingsuch cruelty it leaves lasting scars that most people never recover fromrobbing them off the happiness they might have enjoyed, and robbing us of the added contributions they will never make.
the common thread running through all these tragedies is that they are largely preventable, and the solution is surprisingly simple.
a little more respect would change everything. don’t just respect others, but demand that others do the same. new research tells us that a primary motivation for bullying is to gain social status , and when people stand up for victims, bullies tend to back down. other research shows that many bullies are also victims, and they need respect and not just justice and punishment.
respect for others lives should motivate you to let your friends know that driving drunk is not acceptable, and to find ways to avoid it.
the Boston Marathon bomber may have been mentally unstable or politically are ideologically disgruntled, but if our world was filled with more respect and open communication instead of angry one-sided diatribe, perhaps they would have vented their  dissatisfaction in a more civilized manner.
my point is that you are a member of the human family, and as such, you have the responsibility to step up your game. show more respect to people who you disagree with. even if you’re right and they’re wrong, that still doesn’t give you the right to be a dick about it.
stand up for civility and don’t tolerate disrespect among your family, friends, schoolmates, or coworkers.
let it be okay to disagree, and win your  arguments with reason and example instead of manipulative emotions. If you can’t do that, then why are you so sure that your opinion is valid for everyone else?
if you ever hope to live in a world without senseless violence and shocking tragedies, its on you to help forge a more civil society with respect for everyone built into its foundation.
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Happy Thanksgiving + Merry Christmas!

What I am grateful for today (among other things) is that I finally finished writing the last book in my Courage, Love and the Meaning of Christmas series!

The Art of Heart  finally wraps up the trilogy with the most exciting book yet. Click any of the books above to view them on Amazon.com and click the book image there to read the first dozen chapters or so and see if you get hooked by the interesting characters and engaging style!

Have you ever wanted to write a book? If so, GET STARTED!!! I wrote Courage, Love and the Meaning of Christmas after reading another popular Christmas book and deciding I could do better. Now it has sold thousands and thousands of copies and climbed as high as #442 on Amazon’s overall best seller list.

If you need some tips for how to write and how to get started (the writing process will save you much time and frustration), also pick up my writing textbook, The Art & Craft of Writing: the ultimate step-by-step guidebook to the writing process and effective composition.

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The Simple Things

The latest tech gadgets are cool, thrilling adventures are exciting, and physical pleasures can be satisfying, but sometimes the simple things – a walk on the beach or nap in the sun – are exactly what you need to restore balance to your life. Here’s a simple video to remind you of that fact…

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I Love Work

Imagine for a moment that you have a dream.

[If you have to *imagine* you have a dream, btw, you should really work at *really* having a dream!]

Imagine that you feel excited about that dream. Imagine that attaining/accomplishing/becoming your dream would make you happy and satisfied and excited, and that it would give life meaning.

Clearly, living your dream would be a good way to live.

So why haven’t you reached your dream yet? Why haven’t you accomplished it? I’m guessing you haven’t, because once you reach a dream, it becomes reality, and then it’s time a new dream, unless your new dream is to continue enjoying the old one.  Read more

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Afraid of Love

Once upon a time, there was a boy named Bobby who was afraid of being happy. “If I get too happy, I’ll smile all the time and my cheeks will get tired!” he explained.

“You’re stupid,” said his sister, Mary, who was afraid of having too much money. “If I get too much money, I’ll have to decide where to spend it, and that will stress me out,” she explained.

“That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard,” replied her best friend Tracy, who was afraid of loving too much. “If I love too much, I’ll get my heart broken and people will take advantage of me and I’ll have to do whatever anyone needs from me and I’ll be miserable,” she explained.

Now admit it – you agree with Tracy, don’t you? Loving too much is dangerous, isn’t it? It’s vulnerable and painful. It’s hard work. Love will make you stressed out, overwhelmed, and depressed, right?

Now THAT is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard.

I’m not saying I haven’t been stupid myself. I admit that I’ve believed such things before, and not too long ago. But I can admit I was a fool, and still am. I was wrong, but am working to get it right. Can you admit the same and change your thoughts and ways for the better? Read more

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The University of Life: Roots vs. Wings

Have you ever had wanderlust? Have you glanced through all the stunningly exotic photos online or that your friends pin on Pinterest and wished you could go there?

That’s what I have to say today: YOU CAN. GO!

I once took a spontaneous trip to Taiwan where I taught English and learned Chinese. It lasted five months and ended with a three-week trip to Mainland China. That lasted four months. When I came home and started my master’s program, I couldn’t get it all out of my head and even wrote a book about the incredible experience just to help me process everything that happened.

YOU CAN GO ANYWHERE YOU WANT. If you really want to go, you can find a way to save money, get time off, find someone to go with, and whatever else it takes to get there!  Read more

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If you’re unhappy and you know it…

Do you ever wish life was happier? Yes? Well good news – your wish is about to come true!

IF you cooperate, that is.

Here’s the deal: life is many things. It’s hard. It’s short. It’s confusing. It’s also good, full of opportunities, and open to your input.

What that means is that you have a lot more power over how your life turns out than you knew.

For example, did you know that happiness is a choice?

Yeah, okay, maybe it’s not like you can shout, “I choose happiness!” and suddenly your fairy godmother appears, brings you a prince/ss, and you live happily ever after, but if you really seriously choose happiness, then it will begin to change your life and you will become happier.

It’s a scientific fact. It’s all about how you train your brain. Here’s how: Read more

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Excellence, Escaping the Past, Life is Hard

Three new quotes for today.


1. Excellence

If you’re looking for something to love in this world, may I suggest EXCELLENCE?

I’m not talking about perfectionism – loving only the so-called perfect and being unhappy and dissatisfied with anything less is a cle
I’m talking about striving for something better than you’ve ever been. I’m talking about lettiarly flawed way of approaching life.

ng your mind & heart imagine what could be possible, then turning your vision into reality!

Striving for excellence gives meaning and purpose to all you do and attracts like-minded people. Life becomes more rewarding than the alternative: settling for mediocrity.

 

 


2. How to Escape the Past

The past sets your expectations of the future, and most people believe it, argue for it, and willingly fight to defend their unquestioned belief that things will always be as they always were.

It doesn’t need to be this way! If you don’t like your past – or if you’d like a better future – then it’s all up to you.

As soon as you do something better than you’ve done before, then THAT ACT becomes your past! It becomes the new possible! It suddenly all makes sense and you become the proud new owner of a sparkling new sense of reality.

Don’t wait! Start now! You recreate your past with every passing second!

 

 


3. Life is Hard. Get over it!

It’s surely no news flash to you, but Life is Hard. The surprising thing is to realize that THAT’S OKAY! Yes, life is hard. Now get living!

Mountaineers don’t climb mountains because they’re easy. Explorers don’t discover new continents to get out of mowing the lawn or because there was nothing good on tv. 

The most rewarding things in life all have this in common: THEY ARE DIFFICULT! That’s what makes them rewarding! That’s what makes them worth doing!

If life wasn’t hard, most of us would follow the easy path. We would not stretch and grow. We would waste our lives.

The fact that Life is Hard is a gift to make sure we all get the chance to do something great. To BE great. And how, exactly, can we be great? Don’t worry about it – just LIVE and the rest will take care of itself.

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How to Gain Confidence, Part 1

Before we teach you concrete techniques for increasing confidence, you need to know which of the 4 types of confidence you lack and want to improve. Watch this video for an explanation.

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