The Burden of Love

One reason we don’t choose to love more is that we’re afraid that love will be a burden. We’re afraid that love means we have to listen patiently to the most annoying people on earth and do whatever they ask for when they need a favor. Well, that’s not exactly true. To correct this myth, let’s examine one of the world’s most famous examples of love and its burden – Santa Claus himself! As legend…

Read more

Romantic Love Counterfeits

Romantic love is one of the most powerful forces on earth, and because it’s also quite complex and confusing, several common styles of counterfeits exist. First, let’s review the Top Three reasons why we’re collectively so confused about romantic love: People don’t understand their emotions. They’re like a foreign language that most people only speak a few words of: happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. When a complex, nuanced emotion like romantic love comes along, they…

Read more

Love Thyself as Thy Neighbor

If you’re wondering what it means to love yourself and how to go about it, it’s really quite simple: you love yourself the exact same way you love others. Look into your eyes and see who you really are, then get excited about reaching toward your potential! Take care of yourself. Celebrate your wins. Learn from losses but don’t get discouraged. Express your opinions. Enjoy your talents! Stand up for yourself and needs courageously. Face…

Read more

Chemistry vs. Compatibility

When you really hit it off in a new relationship, we call that “chemistry,” and we’re 100% correct in doing so, because Romantic Love is largely built on chemicals – hormones and neuropeptides that make us feel elated, excited and blissful. The problem with these chemicals is that they mostly just care about persuading you to have sex and propagate the species. They’re notoriously poor judges when it comes to selecting a partner who you’re…

Read more

The Ego Police

Society teaches us that it’s wrong to love yourself, and we often believe it. They call it selfish, egotistical, arrogant, pride, cockiness, narcissism, and being full of yourself. “Well,” they declare with an eyebrow raised judgmentally, “SOMEbody certainly thinks highly of him/herself!” People who say this are members of the Ego Police. How I despise them! (Or despise what they say, rather.) They’re out to beat anyone down who begins to crawl free from the…

Read more

You Are Loved

If you don’t love yourself, there’s a good chance you don’t feel loved by others. Well, you may not know it, and others may not know it, but everyone loves you. Take a fresh look at your friends and family. Maybe they don’t love you the way you want them to love you or the way you need them to love you, but how they love you is not your choice. Train your brain to…

Read more

Celebrate

Have you ever been to a ball game? You walked in and took your seat, maybe munched on popcorn or a hot dog, and when your team scored, you leapt to your feet and screamed your head off as suddenly as if a hill of fire ants just erupted under your chair. YOU didn’t score any points. YOU didn’t train for years to prepare for this moment. YOU didn’t run back and forth, dripping with…

Read more

Love 110: Love Abilities

Welcome to LOVE110. Now that you’ve studied the overviews of what love is and how it works in LOVE101, you’re ready to move from abstract concepts to dozens of specific applications to make you a better lover. You may have registered for this course because you want to be loved more, and that is a worthy goal. We all need more love. We deserve more! It would make the world a better place in every…

Read more

Love 101: What is Love?

Love is kinda like gravity. Nobody knows *exactly* what it is or how it works, but since we all experience it daily, only scientists go around asking, “What is gravity? How does it work?” On the other hand, love is NOT like gravity, because anybody can fall down, but only a small portion of love is the kind you just fall into – and even falling in love can ruin your life if you don’t…

Read more

Love is a Word

The first thing that love is is…a word, and the thing about words is that they mean whatever we say they mean. That’s how words work. In this case, we’ve assigned a LOT of meanings to these four letters. No wonder it gets a bit confusing! It’s kinda like the word “dog.” Everybody THINKS they know what it means, but the word elicits very different images in people’s minds. Not only is there a LOT…

Read more

Love is a Process

Love doesn’t happen all at once. It never happens all at once. It’s like anything else alive. It has a beginning, and from there, it either grows or dies. If you understood how the whole process works, you could help. You could nurture the good seeds and pull the weeds early, before they grew deep roots and spread their pesky seeds in your garden (life). This video explains the process and brings you one step…

Read more

Love is a Choice

Love is active, not passive. It’s an intricate combination of thoughts, feelings, desires, actions, and more. Specifically, “Mature Love is the active concern for the happiness, joy, well being, and spiritual growth of its beloved.” Love is a fire – if it lacks fuel, heat, and air, then whatever spark of love you may have felt will flicker and die. If love was only a feeling, it would never survive, because feelings are fickle. They…

Read more