• LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    The Burden of Love

    One reason we don’t choose to love more is that we’re afraid that love will be a burden. We’re afraid that love means we have to listen patiently to the most annoying people on earth and do whatever they ask for when they need a favor. Well, that’s not exactly true. To correct this myth, let’s examine one of the world’s most famous examples of love and its burden – Santa Claus himself! As legend has it, Santa and his elves spend the year making gifts for all the good little boys and girls; and on Christmas Eve, his reindeer carry him ’round the world to deliver the gifts. How…

  • LOVE 401: Romantic Love,  LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    Romantic Love Counterfeits

    Romantic love is one of the most powerful forces on earth, and because it’s also quite complex and confusing, several common styles of counterfeits exist. First, let’s review the Top Three reasons why we’re collectively so confused about romantic love: People don’t understand their emotions. They’re like a foreign language that most people only speak a few words of: happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. When a complex, nuanced emotion like romantic love comes along, they feel it but don’t begin to understand what it’s saying. People didn’t have good examples to learn from, and therefore they haven’t fully matured, and this affects their actions, needs, and expectations in a relationship.…

  • LOVE 301: Love Yourself,  The University of Love

    Love Thyself as Thy Neighbor

    If you’re wondering what it means to love yourself and how to go about it, it’s really quite simple: you love yourself the exact same way you love others. Look into your eyes and see who you really are, then get excited about reaching toward your potential! Take care of yourself. Celebrate your wins. Learn from losses but don’t get discouraged. Express your opinions. Enjoy your talents! Stand up for yourself and needs courageously. Face and conquer your baseless worries. Live your dreams, not your fears! Read LOVE 110‘s Love Abilities and apply them all to yourself! When God gave Moses the second commandment, to “love thy neighbor as thyself,”…

  • LOVE 401: Romantic Love,  The University of Love

    Chemistry vs. Compatibility

    When you really hit it off in a new relationship, we call that “chemistry,” and we’re 100% correct in doing so, because Romantic Love is largely built on chemicals – hormones and neuropeptides that make us feel elated, excited and blissful. The problem with these chemicals is that they mostly just care about persuading you to have sex and propagate the species. They’re notoriously poor judges when it comes to selecting a partner who you’re truly compatible with. So go right ahead and enjoy your bliss, but be sure to let your conscious decision-making process weigh in as well! Unfortunately, that’s easier said than done. The chemicals make everything APPEAR…

  • LOVE 301: Love Yourself,  LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    The Ego Police

    Society teaches us that it’s wrong to love yourself, and we often believe it. They call it selfish, egotistical, arrogant, pride, cockiness, narcissism, and being full of yourself. “Well,” they declare with an eyebrow raised judgmentally, “SOMEbody certainly thinks highly of him/herself!” People who say this are members of the Ego Police. How I despise them! (Or despise what they say, rather.) They’re out to beat anyone down who begins to crawl free from the cesspool of self hatred and unhappiness. The Ego Police are closely related to the Fashion Police, who associate your self worth with whatever clothes you’re wearing. Most Ego Police don’t do it on purpose. They…

  • LOVE 301: Love Yourself,  The University of Love

    You Are Loved

    If you don’t love yourself, there’s a good chance you don’t feel loved by others. Well, you may not know it, and others may not know it, but everyone loves you. Take a fresh look at your friends and family. Maybe they don’t love you the way you want them to love you or the way you need them to love you, but how they love you is not your choice. Train your brain to scan for signs of love and affection and wishing you well. If you look for it, you’ll find it. Let that evidence accumulate and replace your doubts. Everyone wants you to succeed. They want you…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Celebrate

    Have you ever been to a ball game? You walked in and took your seat, maybe munched on popcorn or a hot dog, and when your team scored, you leapt to your feet and screamed your head off as suddenly as if a hill of fire ants just erupted under your chair. YOU didn’t score any points. YOU didn’t train for years to prepare for this moment. YOU didn’t run back and forth, dripping with sweat, struggling against the opposing team. Yet even so, the victory is YOURS as much as theirs. You have every right to cheer! That’s what sports are all about. There would be no reason for…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Love 110: Love Abilities

    Welcome to LOVE110. Now that you’ve studied the overviews of what love is and how it works in LOVE101, you’re ready to move from abstract concepts to dozens of specific applications to make you a better lover. You may have registered for this course because you want to be loved more, and that is a worthy goal. We all need more love. We deserve more! It would make the world a better place in every way. To Love or Be Loved, That is the Question When people seek more love, they usually focus on becoming more lovable, and they usually do this by trying to become more attractive – by…

  • LOVE 101: What is Love?,  The University of Love,  Video

    Love 101: What is Love?

    Love is kinda like gravity. Nobody knows *exactly* what it is or how it works, but since we all experience it daily, only scientists go around asking, “What is gravity? How does it work?” On the other hand, love is NOT like gravity, because anybody can fall down, but only a small portion of love is the kind you just fall into – and even falling in love can ruin your life if you don’t know what you’re doing. Oh, sure, you THINK you know how to fall in love because it FEELS right, but feelings are…just feelings and they don’t have everything figured out. There’s a lot more to…

  • LOVE 101: What is Love?,  The University of Love,  Video

    Love is a Word

    The first thing that love is is…a word, and the thing about words is that they mean whatever we say they mean. That’s how words work. In this case, we’ve assigned a LOT of meanings to these four letters. No wonder it gets a bit confusing! It’s kinda like the word “dog.” Everybody THINKS they know what it means, but the word elicits very different images in people’s minds. Not only is there a LOT of variation between dogs in size, shape, color, and demeanor, but what happens when you see a reddish animal with a long, fluffy tail? Is that a fox or a dog? Or is a fox…

  • LOVE 101: What is Love?,  The University of Love,  Video

    Love is a Process

    Love doesn’t happen all at once. It never happens all at once. It’s like anything else alive. It has a beginning, and from there, it either grows or dies. If you understood how the whole process works, you could help. You could nurture the good seeds and pull the weeds early, before they grew deep roots and spread their pesky seeds in your garden (life). This video explains the process and brings you one step closer to understanding what love is and how it works. Love is a Process from University of Life. SLIDER Where do you fall on the “Love is a Process” love slider? 1: Love doesn’t exist!…

  • LOVE 101: What is Love?,  The University of Love

    Love is a Choice

    Love is active, not passive. It’s an intricate combination of thoughts, feelings, desires, actions, and more. Specifically, “Mature Love is the active concern for the happiness, joy, well being, and spiritual growth of its beloved.” Love is a fire – if it lacks fuel, heat, and air, then whatever spark of love you may have felt will flicker and die. If love was only a feeling, it would never survive, because feelings are fickle. They flicker and a sudden cool wind can extinguish them. If love was only an action, you could stack up an enormous pile of firewood and never enjoy the warm comfort that fire provides. Watch this…