• Emotions,  Life On Earth,  Love,  Love Courses,  The University of Love

    Love 301: How to Love Yourself – Book Available

    The University of Love’s first publication: Love 301: How to Love yourself, a step-by-step guide to your ideal life experience is now published and ready for you to read! 39 short & entertaining chapters explain what self-love is and how to see the very best in you and delight in the simple fact of being yourself. UofLIFE.com price: $13.99 $12.99 – order at UofLIFE.com/books Or order from Amazon.com: Paperback: $13.99 j.mp/self-love-book Kindle: $13.99 $3.99 j.mp/howtoloveyou Reader comments so far are highly complimentary, like this one I received earlier this week: “I don’t usually like self-help books, but this one’s really good! I think that’s because it makes so many good…

  • Life On Earth,  Love,  Love Quotes,  The University of Love,  Thriving,  U of Life

    Love Quotes: Love Changes Everything

    “Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin Q: Why does Teilhard de Chardin compare harnessing love to discovering fire? A: Because fire changed everything, and so will love, if we ever learn to understand it, teach it, and thus drastically increase its presence in our relationships and institutions. Q: Which institutions will it change? A: All of them. Consider these insightful quotes about education: “Students who are loved at home come to school to learn,…

  • Emotions,  Life On Earth,  Love,  Love Quotes,  The University of Love,  Thriving,  U of Life

    Love Quotes: Love Attracts Love

    “Life is kinder to those who love themselves, because love attracts love and light, and repels and dispels darkness.” – Shaun Roundy Have you ever watched someone walking down the street, smiling and happy, a bounce in their step, and thought, “I bet they’re in love”? Have you ever observed the way a person’s countenance changes as they fall in love? Suddenly they become happier, their eyes shinier, and the weight on their shoulders seems to float away and vanish in the clear blue sky. That’s what love does to us. Not only does it pour more dopamine and other positive chemicals into our blood streams and brains, it shifts…

  • Emotions,  Identity,  Life On Earth,  Love,  The University of Love,  Thriving,  U of Life

    Addicted to Love

    It seems like everybody’s addicted to their smart phones these days, and we feel as if we’d suffocate if we can’t sneak a quick glance to check our messages and new likes. Some of us are addicted to food, shopping, gambling, video games, drugs, porn, and other substances/activities that momentarily soothe our nerves. This happens because of neurotransmitter rewards. In other words, each time we get a new like or take another hit of our favorite “drug,” our brain rewards us with a quick shot of dopamine. That hit – the message, food, new shoes, etc. – isn’t what we’re actually addicted to, it’s the dopamine. All those activities are…

  • Emotions,  Life On Earth,  Love,  The University of Love,  Thriving,  U of Life

    Open Up Your Heart

    You may not even know it, but your heart is not all the way open and you don’t know what you’re missing. This article shows you how to open your heart wider and explains why you should want to. Let’s get started with a variety of exercises, and you can continue practicing until you get comfortable with your new & improved state. Note which exercises you find most difficult and practice them with any images you find throughout your day until they get easier and come naturally. To open your heart, begin by opening your eyes and seeing all the good that exists. Let positive emotions follow and allow them…

  • Depression,  Emotions,  Identity,  Life On Earth,  Love,  The University of Love,  Thriving,  U of Life

    You Are Needed

    I once heard a story wherein a fairy had become entangled in a hedge. A kind girl set her free and the fairy granted her a wish. “I want to always be happy,” the girl declared, at which the fairy flitted up to her shoulder and whispered something in her ear. The girl looked surprised, and the fairy flew away, never to be seen again. Well, the girl lived a long, satisfying life, and her wish came abundantly true. The tale of the fairy’s wish circulated among her family and friends, but no one knew what the fairy had whispered in her ear. As she lay dying with her adoring…

  • Emotions,  Expression,  Identity,  Life On Earth,  Love,  The University of Love

    Love Languages

    Explanations about how love works are all fine and good, but ideas don’t make much difference until you put them into action. That’s what love languages are all about. Love languages is an idea popularized by Gary Chapman’s books that identify five specific ways that people show love, based on what they value. Some people give gifts, others say nice things, share quality time, do acts of service, or communicate affection through physical touch. When two people don’t speak the same language, it’s helpful to observe how the other person expresses love. Then you can both notice more readily the messages being sent, and try expressing your affection in those…

  • LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    Love Barrier Types

    If you don’t love more (and, by definition, you don’t), it’s probably due to one (or two) of two things: ignorance or fear. Ignorance You just don’t know better. If you did, you’d probably rise to that level. That’s why people claim that “everyone is doing the best they know how.” On one hand, this barrier can be solved by simply providing information. That’s why we provide so many insightful explanations on this site, and will continue adding dozens more as we go along. On the other hand, conscious understanding is far less important than deep, emotional, experiential comprehension. That’s why we provide Sliders, For Discussion topics, and Homework –…

  • LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    Second-Hand Love

    To learn to love more, knowledge and explanations are not enough. You must experience love for yourself. That’s why most articles on this site include For Discussion and Homework assignments. I can point the way, and you must walk the path. If you don’t have (or don’t think you have) people to practice love on, you can start by observing other loving people and learn from that. Eventually, you’ll realize that you’re surrounded by people to practice love on. The trick is to see love everywhere, because that’s where it’s found. It may not look like your limited concept of love or what you expected or wanted it to be.…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  LOVE 301: Love Yourself,  LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    Learned Limits

    On one hand, love is an absolute. It is what it is, and it’s powerful, abundant, and infinite. On the other hand, our experience of love is limited to our understanding of it – both conscious and subconscious. Consciously, we observe how others love and assume that where they stop – where love capitulates to selfishness and fear – is the correct amount of love. Anything more or less would violate societal norms and call attention to ourselves. Then we would be judged, and that can be frightening. Subconsciously, our ability to love is constrained by the unconditional and conditional love we received from our parents or other authority figures…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Acceptance

    The second thing love does, after seeing a person clearly, is to accept them unconditionally. That doesn’t make love blind to flaws, it doesn’t mean it has to put up with abuse or continue loving and caring for the person forever, nor that it won’t judge through love’s supportive filter or ask for change. Those decisions are separate and they come later. It simply means that love sees what “is” and grows from there because THAT is the best way to foster happiness, joy, well being, and spiritual growth. The opposite of unconditional acceptance is measuring. An unloving person may measure your value in terms of attractiveness, prestige, wealth and…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Courage

    Have you ever wondered why love inspires such courage and “casteth out all fear”? Well, I’ll tell you! There are actually several good reasons. The first one is Focus. It’s like a surfer out to catch the perfect wave. Yes, there are sharks with three rows of razor-sharp teeth swimming around below the water’s surface, but the surfer isn’t thinking about them. Not very much, at least. Not enough to keep them on shore. Because love’s primary focus is “the active concern for the happiness, joy, well being, and spiritual growth of its beloved,” it’s not thinking about all the things that could go wrong. The second reason is security. The…