Love Barrier Types

If you don’t love more (and, by definition, you don’t), it’s probably due to one (or two) of two things: ignorance or fear. Ignorance You just don’t know better. If you did, you’d probably rise to that level. That’s why people claim that “everyone is doing the best they know how.” On one hand, this barrier can be solved by simply providing information. That’s why we provide so many insightful explanations on this site, and…

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Second-Hand Love

To learn to love more, knowledge and explanations are not enough. You must experience love for yourself. That’s why most articles on this site include For Discussion and Homework assignments. I can point the way, and you must walk the path. If you don’t have (or don’t think you have) people to practice love on, you can start by observing other loving people and learn from that. Eventually, you’ll realize that you’re surrounded by people…

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Learned Limits

On one hand, love is an absolute. It is what it is, and it’s powerful, abundant, and infinite. On the other hand, our experience of love is limited to our understanding of it – both conscious and subconscious. Consciously, we observe how others love and assume that where they stop – where love capitulates to selfishness and fear – is the correct amount of love. Anything more or less would violate societal norms and call…

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The Burden of Love

One reason we don’t choose to love more is that we’re afraid that love will be a burden. We’re afraid that love means we have to listen patiently to the most annoying people on earth and do whatever they ask for when they need a favor. Well, that’s not exactly true. To correct this myth, let’s examine one of the world’s most famous examples of love and its burden – Santa Claus himself! As legend…

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Romantic Love Counterfeits

Romantic love is one of the most powerful forces on earth, and because it’s also quite complex and confusing, several common styles of counterfeits exist. First, let’s review the Top Three reasons why we’re collectively so confused about romantic love: People don’t understand their emotions. They’re like a foreign language that most people only speak a few words of: happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. When a complex, nuanced emotion like romantic love comes along, they…

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The Ego Police

Society teaches us that it’s wrong to love yourself, and we often believe it. They call it selfish, egotistical, arrogant, pride, cockiness, narcissism, and being full of yourself. “Well,” they declare with an eyebrow raised judgmentally, “SOMEbody certainly thinks highly of him/herself!” People who say this are members of the Ego Police. How I despise them! (Or despise what they say, rather.) They’re out to beat anyone down who begins to crawl free from the…

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