• LOVE 401: Romantic Love,  LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    Romantic Love Counterfeits

    Romantic love is one of the most powerful forces on earth, and because it’s also quite complex and confusing, several common styles of counterfeits exist. First, let’s review the Top Three reasons why we’re collectively so confused about romantic love: People don’t understand their emotions. They’re like a foreign language that most people only speak a few words of: happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. When a complex, nuanced emotion like romantic love comes along, they feel it but don’t begin to understand what it’s saying. People didn’t have good examples to learn from, and therefore they haven’t fully matured, and this affects their actions, needs, and expectations in a relationship.…

  • LOVE 401: Romantic Love,  The University of Love

    Chemistry vs. Compatibility

    When you really hit it off in a new relationship, we call that “chemistry,” and we’re 100% correct in doing so, because Romantic Love is largely built on chemicals – hormones and neuropeptides that make us feel elated, excited and blissful. The problem with these chemicals is that they mostly just care about persuading you to have sex and propagate the species. They’re notoriously poor judges when it comes to selecting a partner who you’re truly compatible with. So go right ahead and enjoy your bliss, but be sure to let your conscious decision-making process weigh in as well! Unfortunately, that’s easier said than done. The chemicals make everything APPEAR…

  • LOVE 101: What is Love?,  LOVE 401: Romantic Love,  The University of Love

    Love is a Chemical Reaction

    Science has recently taken an interest in discovering exactly what love consists of. Modern technology like fMRIs have revealed several useful aspects of what generates love within our bodies, but they acknowledge that such information doesn’t begin to explain exactly what love really is, especially real love. Much of the measurable biology of love can be interpreted as motivation to procreate and/or retain lasting relationships. Certain chemicals change their intensity during various stages of a relationship, which helps explain why and how relationships evolve over time. In case you’re interested, the following neurochemicals are especially active during the attraction phase or early years of a romantic relationship. Dopamine: this happiness…