• LOVE 201: How to Love,  LOVE 301: Love Yourself,  LOVE 501: Love Myths & Barriers,  The University of Love

    Learned Limits

    On one hand, love is an absolute. It is what it is, and it’s powerful, abundant, and infinite. On the other hand, our experience of love is limited to our understanding of it – both conscious and subconscious. Consciously, we observe how others love and assume that where they stop – where love capitulates to selfishness and fear – is the correct amount of love. Anything more or less would violate societal norms and call attention to ourselves. Then we would be judged, and that can be frightening. Subconsciously, our ability to love is constrained by the unconditional and conditional love we received from our parents or other authority figures…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Acceptance

    The second thing love does, after seeing a person clearly, is to accept them unconditionally. That doesn’t make love blind to flaws, it doesn’t mean it has to put up with abuse or continue loving and caring for the person forever, nor that it won’t judge through love’s supportive filter or ask for change. Those decisions are separate and they come later. It simply means that love sees what “is” and grows from there because THAT is the best way to foster happiness, joy, well being, and spiritual growth. The opposite of unconditional acceptance is measuring. An unloving person may measure your value in terms of attractiveness, prestige, wealth and…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Courage

    Have you ever wondered why love inspires such courage and “casteth out all fear”? Well, I’ll tell you! There are actually several good reasons. The first one is Focus. It’s like a surfer out to catch the perfect wave. Yes, there are sharks with three rows of razor-sharp teeth swimming around below the water’s surface, but the surfer isn’t thinking about them. Not very much, at least. Not enough to keep them on shore. Because love’s primary focus is “the active concern for the happiness, joy, well being, and spiritual growth of its beloved,” it’s not thinking about all the things that could go wrong. The second reason is security. The…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Celebrate

    Have you ever been to a ball game? You walked in and took your seat, maybe munched on popcorn or a hot dog, and when your team scored, you leapt to your feet and screamed your head off as suddenly as if a hill of fire ants just erupted under your chair. YOU didn’t score any points. YOU didn’t train for years to prepare for this moment. YOU didn’t run back and forth, dripping with sweat, struggling against the opposing team. Yet even so, the victory is YOURS as much as theirs. You have every right to cheer! That’s what sports are all about. There would be no reason for…

  • LOVE 201: How to Love,  The University of Love

    Love 110: Love Abilities

    Welcome to LOVE110. Now that you’ve studied the overviews of what love is and how it works in LOVE101, you’re ready to move from abstract concepts to dozens of specific applications to make you a better lover. You may have registered for this course because you want to be loved more, and that is a worthy goal. We all need more love. We deserve more! It would make the world a better place in every way. To Love or Be Loved, That is the Question When people seek more love, they usually focus on becoming more lovable, and they usually do this by trying to become more attractive – by…