If you could have anything in the world, or do anything you want, or be anything, which would you choose? This podcast helps you explore your options and decide which one is best and how to go about getting what you want! (and avoid common pitfalls along the way).
You already know that gratitude is a great thing to have, but it’s not always easy to wrangle that thought/emotion into your mind and heart. Most people wait around for something good to happen to them as if that were the only time they could experience thankfulness.
If that has been your strategy, then WAIT NO MORE! This podcast reveals exactly how you can experience gratitude more often, more effortlessly, more thoroughly, and perhaps even continually.
Give it a listen and let it change your life (the way it is already changing mine!).
Today’s podcast discusses the ups, downs, and outs of the problem of pain. Without problems to solve, life would get dull fairly quickly, but when you don’t know to address problems productively, then all you get from them is stress, anxiety, and depression. Adding one more secret ingredient changes everything, so listen up and find out what it is!
With practice, you’ll develop the one character trait that makes life easier and more enjoyable, despite challenges.
Today’s podcast asks whether you’re living an inspiring life, then explains how to do that by choosing the better of the two motivations (hint: I’m not referring to love and fear). You also get a story of walking with young pioneers in disappointingly pleasant weather and you’ll learn a little bit about self actualization.
P.S. one of the “family” groups spent much of their walking time solving riddles, so I made up a brand new one. See how quickly you can figure this out:
I carry life on my back between the stars,
I’ll fight you both ways, my arms against yours.
No matter how far you walk, or how fast you run,
We’ll never reach our next destination.
Hint #1: what do you need to keep you alive? Hint #2: stars have rays shooting out from them. Hint #3: what’s the farthest you can ever see (not counting the sky)?
A handcart. It carries your survival gear. The wheels and spokes are like stars. Both ways = uphill and down. Our next destination is the horizon, and we’ll never reach it because it keeps moving farther away….
39 short & entertaining chapters explain what self-love is and how to see the very best in you and delight in the simple fact of being yourself.
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After five years of researching the nature of love and designing effective ways to teach it, The University of Love is pleased (and relieved) to present Love 301: How to Love Yourself, now ready for you to order.
Change your world as you discover what it means to love yourself and how to implement love’s magic into your daily living. Each chapter includes examples, explanations, and several types of application exercises to personalize your learning experience. Read Chapters 3 and 4 here for a small taste of what’s coming your way…
Read Chapters 3 and 4 for a small taste of what’s coming your way.
Read Chapters Three and Four from Love 301: How to Love Yourself to give you a small taste of what’s in store for you. Order your copy today!
39 chapters and 134 pages will change the way you think and feel about and treat yourself, even if you think you already love yourself just fine.
“Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
Q: Why does Teilhard de Chardin compare harnessing love to discovering fire?
A: Because fire changed everything, and so will love, if we ever learn to understand it, teach it, and thus drastically increase its presence in our relationships and institutions.
Q: Which institutions will it change?
A: All of them.
Consider these insightful quotes about education:
“Students who are loved at home come to school to learn, and students who aren’t, come to school to be loved.” – Nicholas Ferroni
And these about business:
Imagine what a politician could do when motivated by the highest, most satisfying ideal:
A man died and went before God. The man said, “Don’t you know what is going on down there?! There’s poverty, crime, racism, war, hatred, and sickness! Why didn’t you send help?!” God replied, “I did. I sent you.”
Even the pain of addictions, which is really a struggle to find peace, can be eased and replaced by love’s connecting power.
“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved, loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” – Victor Hugo
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.” – Kim McMillen
Q: When will this happen? When will we learn to “harness the energies of love”?
A: Why not right now? It’s high time. The University of Love will show the way. That’s our goal.
Have you ever watched someone walking down the street, smiling and happy, a bounce in their step, and thought, “I bet they’re in love”? Have you ever observed the way a person’s countenance changes as they fall in love? Suddenly they become happier, their eyes shinier, and the weight on their shoulders seems to float away and vanish in the clear blue sky.
That’s what love does to us. Not only does it pour more dopamine and other positive chemicals into our blood streams and brains, it shifts our focus to the positive and hopeful. Worries fade away. We become more willing to risk and invest in ourselves and play. Merely being alive becomes a continual pleasure.
The benefits of being in love don’t stop there, because our bright, shining aura naturally attracts all other living beings who long to bask in its light. Sure, a few jaded souls (we’ve all been there) may feel envious as our happiness highlights their contrasting emptiness, but if they can get past souring something sweet, our cheerful, lively presence will lift them as well.
How unfortunate, don’t you think? That when we’re not in love, when we’re alone and lonely and need to look more happy and shiny in order to increase our attractiveness and, perhaps, draw love into our own lives, that when we need it most, we may lack that brilliant, happy, optimistic glow shining from behind our eyes?
But wait a second – stop and read that quote again. Notice that it doesn’t say “life is kinder to people who are in love” – which, sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t – but “kinder to those who love themselves.”
Sure, we like to think that being in love or being loved by someone else is what gives us value and self esteem and happiness, but if you don’t love yourself first, then those things provide only a pleasant band aid over a festering wound.
So if you’re looking for more love in your life, begin by loving yourself better. Study up on what that means and how to accomplish it here at the University of Love and put those steps into practice immediately! You’ll have a bounce in your step before you know it; then watch as you attractive higher-quality love into your life than ever before!
It seems like everybody’s addicted to their smart phones these days, and we feel as if we’d suffocate if we can’t sneak a quick glance to check our messages and new likes. Some of us are addicted to food, shopping, gambling, video games, drugs, porn, and other substances/activities that momentarily soothe our nerves.
This happens because of neurotransmitter rewards. In other words, each time we get a new like or take another hit of our favorite “drug,” our brain rewards us with a quick shot of dopamine. That hit – the message, food, new shoes, etc. – isn’t what we’re actually addicted to, it’s the dopamine. All those activities are merely methods to stimulate its release.
What would happen to our world if we became addicted to loving behavior instead? To kind words, generous gestures, acts of courage and nobility, healthy self care, kindness, acceptance, and spiritual growth? Read more “Addicted to Love”
You may not even know it, but your heart is not all the way open and you don’t know what you’re missing. This article shows you how to open your heart wider and explains why you should want to.
Let’s get started with a variety of exercises, and you can continue practicing until you get comfortable with your new & improved state. Note which exercises you find most difficult and practice them with any images you find throughout your day until they get easier and come naturally.
To open your heart, begin by opening your eyes and seeing all the good that exists. Let positive emotions follow and allow them to soften the walls that dampened your ability to feel.
As you practice opening your heart, you’ll learn that love and happiness truly aren’t about the other person, they depend on YOU and your ability to be a loving, happy person.
Where do you fall on the “Open Up Your Heart” love slider?
|1: The only value I get from anyone or anything else comes from how it satisfies my appetites.||3: I’m too scared or hurt to open my heart. I’ll open it when someone loves me enough that it heals all my wounds and proves that it’s safe to come out.||5: I love myself, my family, and my friends. Everyone else is competition for scarce resources, including happiness and love.||7: I’m trying to love everyone, but it’s not always easy!||10: The world is so filled with beauty and joy that I want to share it with everyone I see!|
11. Going to extremes: if you’re new to opening your heart to everyone, BE CAREFUL! You’ll discover that it’s much easier than you thought to love everyone, and you may often experience feelings that you once reserved only for intimate romantic relationships. JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE SOMEONE DOES NOT MEAN YOU BELONG IN A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.
Which heart-opening exercises do you find more difficult? Why?
How much would you LIKE to open your heart? What are the biggest barriers to doing so?
Practice opening your heart to people and beauty wherever you go. You don’t need to do anything about it – at first – just observe. Eventually, courage, vision, and actions will follow.
I once heard a story wherein a fairy had become entangled in a hedge. A kind girl set her free and the fairy granted her a wish.
“I want to always be happy,” the girl declared, at which the fairy flitted up to her shoulder and whispered something in her ear. The girl looked surprised, and the fairy flew away, never to be seen again.
Well, the girl lived a long, satisfying life, and her wish came abundantly true. The tale of the fairy’s wish circulated among her family and friends, but no one knew what the fairy had whispered in her ear.
As she lay dying with her adoring family gathered around her hospital bed, a granddaughter took her hand and asked what several of them had wondered for years. “Grandma, what did the fairy tell you that made you so happy all your life?”
The old woman turned toward her granddaughter and caressed her cheek lovingly. “She told me,” she said slowly, “‘Everyone needs you.’”
With that, she closed her eyes, expelled a final breath, and passed from this life with a contented smile on her face.
When you understand that everyone does need you, when you start looking for what you can give and how you contribute to the lives around you by simply being yourself rather than imagining their criticisms and complaints, then you let love instead of fear permeate your life, and that guarantees more love and abundance than any outward blessing could ever accomplish.[This article comes from chapter 5.49 “You Are Needed” of Heal Your Mind: A Practical Guide to Speaking Your Brain’s Languages and Turing Pain into Power by Shaun Roundy]
Where do you fall on the “You Are Needed” love slider?
|1: Nobody needs me. In fact, the world would be better off if I didn’t exist.||3: Sure, people need me, but only for the work I do, and anybody could replace me if I was gone.||5: Some people sorta need me, but they don’t really care about me. They just use me because I’m convenient.||7: Only my close friends need and love me. That’s good enough.||10: Everybody needs me whether they know it or not. They’d be okay without me, but their world would be diminished without me to brighten it up!|
11. Going to extremes: some people glean their sense of value from being needed. They continually check how others react to them (and project their worries onto others) and how many “likes” they get on Facebook to determine whether they’re safe and accepted. Your sense of value should be intrinsic for best effect. Accept yourself unconditionally and go forward from there.
What’s your most valuable contribution to the world? How does with your mere presence influence others?
How could loving yourself more make you even more important and needed to others?
Serve strangers in small or large ways and notice the difference you make. What would happen if everyone did that?
Serve yourself – do something that makes you truly happy – and notice how your cheerfulness affects others.