If you could have anything in the world, or do anything you want, or be anything, which would you choose? This podcast helps you explore your options and decide which one is best and how to go about getting what you want! (and avoid common pitfalls along the way).
You already know that gratitude is a great thing to have, but it’s not always easy to wrangle that thought/emotion into your mind and heart. Most people wait around for something good to happen to them as if that were the only time they could experience thankfulness.
If that has been your strategy, then WAIT NO MORE! This podcast reveals exactly how you can experience gratitude more often, more effortlessly, more thoroughly, and perhaps even continually.
Give it a listen and let it change your life (the way it is already changing mine!).
Today’s podcast discusses the ups, downs, and outs of the problem of pain. Without problems to solve, life would get dull fairly quickly, but when you don’t know to address problems productively, then all you get from them is stress, anxiety, and depression. Adding one more secret ingredient changes everything, so listen up and find out what it is!
With practice, you’ll develop the one character trait that makes life easier and more enjoyable, despite challenges.
Today’s podcast asks whether you’re living an inspiring life, then explains how to do that by choosing the better of the two motivations (hint: I’m not referring to love and fear). You also get a story of walking with young pioneers in disappointingly pleasant weather and you’ll learn a little bit about self actualization.
P.S. one of the “family” groups spent much of their walking time solving riddles, so I made up a brand new one. See how quickly you can figure this out:
I carry life on my back between the stars,
I’ll fight you both ways, my arms against yours.
No matter how far you walk, or how fast you run,
We’ll never reach our next destination.
Hint #1: what do you need to keep you alive? Hint #2: stars have rays shooting out from them. Hint #3: what’s the farthest you can ever see (not counting the sky)?
A handcart. It carries your survival gear. The wheels and spokes are like stars. Both ways = uphill and down. Our next destination is the horizon, and we’ll never reach it because it keeps moving farther away….
Read Chapters Three and Four from Love 301: How to Love Yourself to give you a small taste of what’s in store for you. Order your copy today!
39 chapters and 134 pages will change the way you think and feel about and treat yourself, even if you think you already love yourself just fine.
It seems like everybody’s addicted to their smart phones these days, and we feel as if we’d suffocate if we can’t sneak a quick glance to check our messages and new likes. Some of us are addicted to food, shopping, gambling, video games, drugs, porn, and other substances/activities that momentarily soothe our nerves.
This happens because of neurotransmitter rewards. In other words, each time we get a new like or take another hit of our favorite “drug,” our brain rewards us with a quick shot of dopamine. That hit – the message, food, new shoes, etc. – isn’t what we’re actually addicted to, it’s the dopamine. All those activities are merely methods to stimulate its release.
What would happen to our world if we became addicted to loving behavior instead? To kind words, generous gestures, acts of courage and nobility, healthy self care, kindness, acceptance, and spiritual growth? Read more “Addicted to Love”
I once heard a story wherein a fairy had become entangled in a hedge. A kind girl set her free and the fairy granted her a wish.
“I want to always be happy,” the girl declared, at which the fairy flitted up to her shoulder and whispered something in her ear. The girl looked surprised, and the fairy flew away, never to be seen again.
Well, the girl lived a long, satisfying life, and her wish came abundantly true. The tale of the fairy’s wish circulated among her family and friends, but no one knew what the fairy had whispered in her ear.
As she lay dying with her adoring family gathered around her hospital bed, a granddaughter took her hand and asked what several of them had wondered for years. “Grandma, what did the fairy tell you that made you so happy all your life?”
The old woman turned toward her granddaughter and caressed her cheek lovingly. “She told me,” she said slowly, “‘Everyone needs you.’”
With that, she closed her eyes, expelled a final breath, and passed from this life with a contented smile on her face.
When you understand that everyone does need you, when you start looking for what you can give and how you contribute to the lives around you by simply being yourself rather than imagining their criticisms and complaints, then you let love instead of fear permeate your life, and that guarantees more love and abundance than any outward blessing could ever accomplish.[This article comes from chapter 5.49 “You Are Needed” of Heal Your Mind: A Practical Guide to Speaking Your Brain’s Languages and Turing Pain into Power by Shaun Roundy]
Where do you fall on the “You Are Needed” love slider?
|1: Nobody needs me. In fact, the world would be better off if I didn’t exist.||3: Sure, people need me, but only for the work I do, and anybody could replace me if I was gone.||5: Some people sorta need me, but they don’t really care about me. They just use me because I’m convenient.||7: Only my close friends need and love me. That’s good enough.||10: Everybody needs me whether they know it or not. They’d be okay without me, but their world would be diminished without me to brighten it up!|
11. Going to extremes: some people glean their sense of value from being needed. They continually check how others react to them (and project their worries onto others) and how many “likes” they get on Facebook to determine whether they’re safe and accepted. Your sense of value should be intrinsic for best effect. Accept yourself unconditionally and go forward from there.
What’s your most valuable contribution to the world? How does with your mere presence influence others?
How could loving yourself more make you even more important and needed to others?
Serve strangers in small or large ways and notice the difference you make. What would happen if everyone did that?
Serve yourself – do something that makes you truly happy – and notice how your cheerfulness affects others.
Explanations about how love works are all fine and good, but ideas don’t make much difference until you put them into action. That’s what love languages are all about.
Love languages is an idea popularized by Gary Chapman’s books that identify five specific ways that people show love, based on what they value. Some people give gifts, others say nice things, share quality time, do acts of service, or communicate affection through physical touch.
When two people don’t speak the same language, it’s helpful to observe how the other person expresses love. Then you can both notice more readily the messages being sent, and try expressing your affection in those terms so your partner will more clearly understand how you feel.
It’s also important to communicate – let your partner know how you communicate love and how you like to receive it. Otherwise you may totally miss the messages being sent and feel unappreciated for your efforts even though each of you may be doing your best.
Love languages reveal the method by which people prefer to express love, but that’s only the first step. How often and thoroughly those messages are spoken is even more important.
For example, if you understand love via gifts, do you prefer expensive ones or thoughtfully chosen ones more?
If you appreciate quality time, what does that mean to YOU? Do you prefer quality conversation, exciting adventures, or creating something together? How much does constantly checking your phone detract from that time?
If physical touch is your thing, then how long your massage lasts speaks volumes.
Your words and actions when you’re not communicating love also matter immensely. If one minute you say, “I love you!” (whether with words, gifts, touch, etc.) and the next minute, you’re criticizing, complaining, being angry or impatient, etc., those negative messages will undermine and can entirely erase your good intentions.
Where do you fall on the “Love Languages” love slider?
|1: If people don’t love me the way I want and expect, then I’m blind to whatever they’re trying to communicate. I don’t believe they really love me, or they’re not very good at it!||3: If someone really loves me, they’ll learn to love my love language best. If they don’t, I’ll find a new relationship where love doesn’t require so much effort!||5: It’s so sad to speak separate love languages! We’ll never fully understand or appreciate each other, and it’s annoying to have to try!||7: Speaking other love languages is sometimes inconvenient, but it’s important to try, and it’s worth it!||10: I like my love languages best, but becoming bilingual sounds like a fun challenge.|
11. Going to extremes: In your desire to make the right impression and please someone, don’t deny or lose yourself. Don’t forget who you are and become someone else in order to please someone so they’ll love you back and you can feel secure. You may fool them for a while, but
How do you most often show love? How do you like to be shown when someone cares for you?
Do you think that your love language is the best one?
How do you think speaking different love languages would affect the quality of a relationship?
Look around at how people express love and affection and see if you can figure out their love language. Notice whether they send you any messages of love in their language.
Once you have a guess regarding someone’s love language, try speaking it. Make it a fun challenge, as if you were learning another language in preparation for an overseas vacation. See how fluent and comfortable you can become!
If you’re in a relationship, ask your partner what they like best that you do for them.
What moments have changed your life’s direction, for better or worse? What events shaped your future and turned you into the person you are now? Have you ever created major changes in life without some external impetus to force your hand?
What if you could change anything about your life right now? What would you change? Think it over!
One of the most important traits you can develop is confidence. It makes you more attractive. It gives you the courage to live your dreams. It smooths out dozens of small bumps in the road of life and helps you progress much faster toward your inherent potential.
With that in mind, here are a few stories of confidence-related pivotal moments to help you process the concept. PLEASE SHARE your own pivotal moments in the comments sections below! Everyone would love to hear and learn from them.
A Scout is…Confident?
I went to scout camp the summer before 9th grade, and sitting around the fire one afternoon, Coy started spitting watermelon seeds at me as he ate. Coy was one of the “cool” kids and I was not. After several seeds, something in me snapped – something small at first, then bigger. “If you spit one more seed at me,” I warned, “I’ll beat the crap out of you.” Coy calmly took another bite of melon, chewed, then spit a seed at me. Read more “Pivotal Moments: Confidence”
Lucky you! Congratulations! The ecstatic bliss you now feel is the most joyous experience you’ve ever known. The sun shines brighter, birds sing more sweetly, and you’re about to live happily ever after!
But hold on for just a second – because you just realized how utterly sappy all that sounds to everybody else who’s not in love, and how much you sound like a Disney princess, which you know – or at least you used to know – is not exactly realistic.
So which is it? Are you in love or aren’t you? Will you live happily ever after or are you setting yourself up for heart break? Does True Love exist or is it only an appealing myth? You’d like to know for certain so you can plan accordingly.
Okay, great, let’s find out! Read more “Are You Really In Love?”
Today’s podcast discusses overcoming self doubt and insecurity and features this quote from Don Miguel Ruiz: “Love is ruthless; it doesn’t feel sorry for anyone, but it does have compassion.”
We discuss how this reveals an important way to love yourself by not putting up with your brain’s silly doubting games and swap that in for unapologetic belief in yourself and devotion to your well being.
The following software-translated transcript is rough – I’ll clean this up later:
Welcome to this university life and RapidEnergyHealing.com podcast. Today we’re going to talk about your true identity, Read more “Kilgore Trout-Style Life Transformation”